One word....Minecraft!
It's a big thing in our house. J absolutely loves it and in a way I can see why. Playing helps take away the pressures and distractions of the real world.
When you think about it it's perfect....there's no noisy or unfamiliar environment to distract her, no pressure to read the other person’s facial expressions or even worry about eye contact. With Minecraft, you can really just be yourself!!
The thing I struggle with is when her friends aren't online (only 4 or 5 friends) to play with or that her messages to play are ignored, this then ignites her anxiety. We will not hear the end of it. She will go on and on and on. Why haven't they replied. Why don't they want to play etc etc.
Even worse, is when they do play then they do something (probably unknowingly) that she deems unacceptable. She's a stickler for rules in this game! (Though I am secretly sure she doesn't always abide by them herself!!).
'Friends' have been known to do something not nice in a game, which winds her up, then she will switch everything off claiming never to play with them again.
Fast forward to the following day and she gets an invite from said friend to play and all is forgotten!
I guess in a way that's not so much of a bad trait to have. I think we as adults tend to perhaps hold more of a grudge for a longer time. I know I have been known to!
I think J is extremely creative and I love the fact she's so passionate about it. It's pretty much been the main focus for some time now. I listen to her chatting online and she's so sweet helping friends out etc, I just sometimes worry that her good nature will be abused one day. She's quite trusting and can take offence quite easily. But I guess as parents we can't always be there to fight our child's battles. They may have to learn the hard way. But what we can do is just be there for back up.
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