Pick Your Battles! I remember someone telling me this at the start of our journey. It's not always easy, but sometimes you have to just let some things slide, right? For you and your child's sanity. No one wants to live in a constant war zone, but if you are not careful, it can end up feeling that way.
Balance!
In the beginning I used to feel that we were letting J 'get away' with anything and everything and that we were always 'giving in' to what she wanted. I'm sure to the outside world looking in it certainly looked that way!
But it's not about that, it's about trying to maintain what is all too often a fragile balance between addressing everything that ideally would be addressed, to realising that some things are just not worth it. Simple as that.
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For example, if the situation/demand becomes flooded with anxiety and the expectation to do something/perform a task overwhelms your child at that particular moment, you really have to ask yourself if it's worth the fight, the ensuing battle?
At the end of the day, if we picked EVERY battle with our child we would, without doubt, surely lose our mind? Parenting a child on the spectrum is hard enough, so you need to work out what control can you let go of. It's hard sometimes, I'm not going to lie.
We all have our own ideas about how our child should behave and what they should/shouldn't do, but sometimes the reality is quite different and trying to win battles constantly is just plain exhausting.
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